Have you ever wanted to not want to drink an entire bottle of wine?
Have you ever wanted to not want to eat the entire batch of homemade cookies?
Have you ever wanted to be able to eat just one slice of pizza?
Have you ever wanted to be able to drink just one glass of wine?
So many of us overeat or overdrink on a regular basis.
We are often overwhelmed with shame and guilt – hiding or justifying our actions. I can’t help but wonder how many of us feel this way but aren’t willing to say it out loud. I’m certain you are not alone.
I want to offer a different perspective – one that gives you a chance to get back the control in your life. Instead of focusing on the symptoms, let’s look at the cause of overdrinking or overeating.
It is the concept of overdesire.
We often buffer our emotions with substances. It is much easier to numb them than to deal with them.
We increase our use over time which increases our desire. Our cravings and urges become artificially inflated beyond our evolved ability to satisfy. When we try to cut back, it increases our desire by the withholding of it. It feels like we are consuming against our own will or that we are out of control. Once we run out of willpower, we are right back to overconsuming.
The solution is to reduce the desire. When that is gone, there will be no need for willpower to direct our behavior.
How do I reduce desire?
- Write a plan for your food or drinks.
- Commit to your plan. Your reason to commit must be stronger than the urges you will encounter.
- Follow your plan no matter what.
- Be willing to feel the emotions that come up.
- Know you will fail at following your plan, but commit to never giving up.
If you keep doing the same things, you will keep getting the same results.
If you want a new result, you have to start taking different actions. Imagine what your life could be like.
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(Note: If you believe you are addicted to a substance, using a substance hazardously or with negligence, please seek help. The information in this blog is not intended for you.)