I am strong.
I am smart.
I know more about how our minds work than most people on the planet.
I am human.
Sometimes, I need help figuring out my own stuff.
And, that’s ok.
I can’t always see it when it is happening in my own brain.
So, I have a coach to help me see it.
Life isn’t perfect.
Life isn’t easy.
Life is 50/50. It’s half positive and half negative.
I make great choices.
I make bad choices.
And, that’s ok.
I am human.
It’s life, and I’m doing the best I can.
The fun part is… I am pushing myself to do things I never thought I could do.
That is where the adventure is… the struggle… outside of my comfort zone.
Are you ready to push yourself beyond your comfort zone?
Or, will you settle for your comfort zone?
I can help you see how your thoughts affect you.
It’s ok to ask for help.
Let me know when you are ready.Schedule a FREE Mini Coaching Session
Do you spend more money than you have in your checking account?
Do you eat more calories in a day than your body needs for fuel?
Do you drink beyond social or legal limits?
Do you have no time to get things done but are up to date on your Netflix shows?
If you said yes to any of these, you are living beyond your means. I know I am in more than one area.
We live in a world of excess and taught that more is better. Instant gratification has become the name of the game.
If you are okay with going into debt, gaining weight, feeling like crap the morning after, or being stressed about your to do list… then keep right on living beyond!
But, if you are tired of the symptoms created by your overindulgence, then follow these steps.
- Become aware of what you are doing. (That alone is half the battle). Most of us are wandering in a daze when it comes to where we are overindulging.
- Realize you are falling for instant gratification only to suffer the pain later (interest rates, clothes don’t fit, hangovers, or stress over no time).
- If you really want to change, you are going to have to get out of your comfort zone. It won’t feel good in the moment, because your brain likes to keep it all status quo.
- Consider each decision: give yourself two choices. Which is the choice you really want to make?
You can change one decision at a time.
You can change your outlook on life just by getting on a FREE consult with me.
Just click the link to schedule yours now: https://attiecalistodesign.as.me/free-mini-session
I watched a client go through heartbreak last week.
It was hard to watch and see, but she did it so eloquently – without even realizing it.
I just had to share it with you.
This client was anticipating getting a position that she has wanted for a year now.
She and her coworkers all believed that she was the perfect candidate.
Her interview went well, and she felt confident.
Friday, she found out she didn’t get the position.
She was heartbroken.
She knew she would be.
She had to leave work a little early.
Because, she knew once the tears started, they wouldn’t stop.
And, they didn’t.
For hours, she cried… in her room, at home, alone.
She mourned the loss and disappointment she felt.
She didn’t hold any emotions back.
She felt them through and through.
It felt terrible.
Once she was done, she was done.
She was appreciative for what she did have.
She loved that her coworkers supported her.
She didn’t blame the coworker that got the position. It wasn’t her fault.
She still believed she would have been the best candidate.
But, she has no regrets.
My client put herself out there and took a chance.
It was scary.
She did all that she could do.
She was truly heartbroken, and she experienced those emotions.
She did not try to shove those emotions down or blame others for her outcome.
She accepted the reality of what is, she felt the pain of it, and she moved forward.
It was truly eloquent.
If only all of us could process our emotions so well…
Instead of blaming others.
Instead of eating to numb ourselves.
Instead of drinking to wash away the pain.
Instead of vegging out on Netflix.
Instead of beating ourselves up for not being good enough.
What if we just felt the pain for as long as it took?
Most of us are fortunate enough in our lives to have people that love us… no matter what we do.
But, what about you?
Do you love you?
I thought I loved me.
I thought I treated myself with compassion… until I met with my coach the other day.
She pointed out the mean things I was saying about myself…
the eye rolls when talking about how I messed up…
the negative language I used to talk about myself.
Y’all, I am not very nice to me.
It took my coach to point it out to me so that I could see it, too.
Understand that I do not like sharing this with you.
I’m way too vulnerable at this moment.
But, if you can be helped by my discovery, I’m all in.
You see, I can love the hell out of you.
I accept that you have stuff to deal with.
I have compassion for you.
I flat out think you are amazing, valuable, and worthy of love.
So, why is it so hard for me to feel that way about me?
Maybe because I’ve been fighting with myself since I was about 14… never good enough.
It doesn’t really matter how I got here.
It is where I am.
…and, I just want to change it.
Now, about the how.
How do I learn to love myself?
With lots and lots of practice… and awareness.
***I have a feeling this might take a while.
But, every time I catch myself putting myself down for a decision, I will turn it around.
I will change that thought into a loving and accepting one.
The hardest part for me is the awareness.
I am totally willing to love me, but those negative thoughts are sneaky.
My brain is trained to think them.
I need to unlearn that behavior and retrain my brain with love and compassion.
So, here I go… with humility and compassion.
***Ha! I caught this one. It might not take long at all. This statement is just more of me thinking I’m not capable… My new thought: I will succeed no matter how long it takes.
There. That feels much better.