Autopilot

Our brains make over 60,000 decisions a day.  So every chance they get, our brains run on autopilot… which, most of the time, means we are following an instruction  “manual” from our childhood. Our parents taught us our behaviors, our beliefs… down to the detail. We watched and learned.

Really.  It’s crazy, I know.  But, it is also true.  Think about it.

My husband leaves the TV on all day for background noise, because his mom does.

I turn the TV off if no one is watching, because my mom does.

Toilet paper roll over the top of the roll…

We all eat the same thing at dinner…

You have to work really hard to earn a lot of money…

We have to buy certain brands of certain foods, because other brands are unacceptable…

You make Thanksgiving dinner with Granny’s dressing…

You put the toilet seat down when you are done…

You brush your teeth twice a day…

No one is happy unless mama is happy… ok, well, that is a universal truth, but I digress.

I could go on forever….

My point is, our brains are on autopilot most of the time.  Some of our thoughts are outdated, and we just haven’t bothered to open up to the possibilities. There is a big world out there, full of opportunity.

Is your life headed in the direction you want?  

If yes, then congrats to you!  Keep it up.  

If no, then you can change it. It is just a thought or two away.  Really. You CAN make it happen.  

Future-Focused?

“I’m going to lose the weight.”

“I’m going to make more money.”

“I’m going to let go of the past.”

“I’m going to leave this relationship.”

“I’m going to get out of this debt.”

Do you see what all of these statements have in common?  They are all future-focused… which is great, because living in the past doesn’t serve you. But…. you can future-focus yourself straight into stagnation.  If you are going to do it, then you are never actually doing it.

Change your thoughts about your goals to create massive action in the present.  When you live in the moment, the here and now, you make your goals a reality. Ask yourself, “Is this choice going to get me closer to my goal?” If the answer is no, then make another choice.

Truth Be Told

My kids tell me all the time the “facts” they have learned from the internet.  I often argue with them, telling them they need to be careful and shouldn’t believe everything they see on the internet.

Then I started thinking.  We didn’t have the internet to give us our information.  But, who is to say “word of mouth” learning was any better?

Do you really think that gum will stay in your stomach forever if you swallow it?  If you step on that crack, will it really break your mother’s back? Will an apple a day really keep the doctor away? Don’t even get me started on holiday traditions…

When I started researching food and diets, I came to the realization that a lot of the things that I had “known” were true my entire life weren’t.

Did you know that counting calories doesn’t work?

Did you know that low fat, low calorie food does not make us thin?

Did you know that it is actually high insulin levels in our bodies that cause weight gain?

Did you know that snacking should not ever happen?

Did you know that you won’t kill your metabolism by skipping breakfast?

Did you know that you don’t need to fuel your workout?

Did you know that most of the “facts” we have learned about food and what is good for us just isn’t true?

Me neither…

But, now I do.

Knowledge is power.

It’s data… Not drama

Today we are talking about the scale. I am here to tell you that it is your friend, not your enemy! Just wait… hear me out!

The scale is a measuring tool.  It collects data. That’s it. There are no emotions or judgments involved in weighing yourself.

If you are being emotional about the scale, stop it! 

You should weigh in every Friday (or whatever day you choose) and, you should record your data. Write it down. 

All that number means for you is whether or not you lost weight.  To figure out why, you will have to track your food. That is where the evidence is lying.

Remember that the scale weights your muscles… your bones… your fat… your blood… your organs… your water… and any food left over from the last 24 hours in your body. It’s NOT a measurement of how fat you are. That’s emotion talking.

It is simply a number to compare to last week’s number Use it that way. Do the math, and decide you need to change what you are eating or not.

So, step on up with confidence! 

What Would She Do?

I know who I am now, but who do I see myself as in the future?

I see me.  I have very specific ideas about who my future self is and what she does.

I want to be her.  She seems really awesome.  But, there is a problem.

There is a disconnect.  That awesome future self is always in… the future.

I keep waiting for that day to come that I am her.  It never does. My future self is always sitting right before me, just out of my reach.

So, I’m going to utilize the WWMFSD? Strategy.  What Would My Future Self Do? When undecided, I will ask myself that question and choose that action.

For example, should I eat those donuts? WWMFSD? The answer is nope!

And bam! Just like that, she is one step closer to me. After about 1 million more choices like that, I might actually be her.

I wonder what her favorite book is. I wonder what her favorite activity is. I wonder where her favorite vacation spot is.

Who is your future self?

Because I’m Happy…

OK. So, now you probably have that song stuck in your head, too.  

Sorry… not really.

I was browsing through old photos today, and I started to notice a pattern…

Besides my ever changing hairstyles…

Besides my ever fluctuating weight…

Sometimes, the smile on my face was genuine.  Sometimes, the smile was just for the camera (if there was even a smile at all). Sometimes, I was really happy.  Sometimes, I really wasn’t.

For so many years, I allowed outside circumstances to control my happiness.  

It didn’t matter if I was overweight or at idea weight.  

It didn’t matter if my hair was long or short: brown, red, or blond.

It didn’t matter if I was on vacation, visiting friends and family, or hanging out at home.

The happiness I found never lasted, because I was expecting others to make me happy… and that is NOT their job.

Happiness is my job.  I have learned that fact.  I am the only person that can truly make me happy.  If I’m not, I can’t blame anyone but myself…. and I always have the choice to change how I feel.  

These days, I choose happy.  Every. Single. Day.

Are you happy?

How Do You Handle the Sadness?

I go through emotional cycles as I am sure most of us do.  Right now, I am in that down cycle – that “glass is half empty” view on life. There is no joy, no excitement, no love of life that usually seeps into my soul each day.  I’m used to it. I know it will pass. But…

I self-sabotage with eating comfort food.

I don’t pay attention to my intermittent fasting.

I sleep way too much.

I don’t write.

I can’t make a decision without an emotional back-and-forth in my brain.

I don’t exercise.

I don’t create.

I just avoid.

And, I don’t care…

Until the fog lifts (sometimes several days later).

Then, I’m mad.  How could I allow myself to mess up so bad?!  I was there for it. It’s not like I took a little vacation from my body and came back to find chaos’ aftermath. I WAS RIGHT THERE for it all!  And, I didn’t stop myself!

I’ve decided to make myself a thought chart.  When the fog lifts, I will write down all of those positive thoughts I usually have that keep me on track each day… create a manual for myself. Then… maybe, just maybe, I can make it through the next low cycle just following the manual.  On the other side, I am hopeful I can be proud of my actions.

Self-Esteem Queen

Today, I was challenged with an interesting insight into myself. I have almost always let others dictate my self-esteem… my worthiness as a human being. Crap in my past started this extremely detrimental path that I walked for most of my life.  Recently, I dealt with the crap. The reward was a sense of release and freedom – no longer letting those things control me and how I felt about myself any longer. For a long while, I was full of confidence and really didn’t give a rat’s ass what anyone thought about me.  I was proud to be me- even with all my flaws.

But, without me noticing, those few, judgmental coworkers started eating away at my new found confidence with their underhanded, tacky  “compliments” over the last few months. 

Yesterday, I went shopping by myself.  I recently cut and bleached my hair. That, along with my weight, made me an insecure, young preteen all over again.  I watched everyone that looked at me as I passed by. I watched my reflection in the store windows. EVERY, SINGLE THOUGHT going through my head was negative.  “They are staring at me, because my hair looks stupid.” “They think I am fat and ugly.” “OMG, my reflection is hideous!” Etc, etc, etc…

What the heck?! What happened to that confident 45 year old woman who had finally found strength from within? She, evidently, is on a vacation… leaving the insecure one in charge.

So, the lesson I learned today: it’s a process.  I am not perfect; I never will be. Even if I’m at my ideal weight and my hairstyle is featured in Vogue, that insecure girl can take over at any time.  She has before… I’ve lost all the weight before (more than once).  

I remember the comment ONE PERSON made to me many years ago that sent me back spiraling down this path of self-sabotage.  In retrospect, it was a very stupid comment. I doubt she even remembers saying it. But, I allowed it to take over my entire existence at the time.

But, I say “No more!” I can’t change those judgmental, life-sucking, gossiping women.  I can only control how I react to them. It is hard. I am dreading going back to work and seeing one individual in particular.  So, that means I’m already letting her get to me and influence my self-esteem , and I haven’t even seen her yet. But, it is a process… and I will win in the end.

Get Your Zzzzzzz’s

Sleep is super important and should be scheduled on your calendar. Yes, a date with Mr. Sandman should be in your plan every night – and possibly a nap in there, too. Need more convincing? Here is the 411.

10. 7-8 hours every night is needed.

9. Your body repairs itself while you sleep.

8. Your mind recoups from all the work it did all day – and prepares for tomorrow’s tasks.

7. Your body gets rid of fat faster when it is well rested.

6. If you didn’t get your 7-8 hours, a nap may just do the trick to allow your body/mind it’s repair time.

5. Turn off the volume on your phone. Your brain still registers those sounds even when you sleep.

4. Turn off all of the lights. Your brain needs to know it is time to sleep.

3. A routine bedtime is not only beneficial for kids but adults too. Biorhythms, my friends.

2. 30 minutes before sleep time, put your phone away and do something to calm your brain. It will help you go to sleep faster. Just be still in your mind.

1. You lose weight when you sleep!

Got any tips you can share to help us sleep? Let us know in the comments below!

One Simple Step to Start Losing Weight

You REALLY, REALLY, REALLY need to start drinking more water!

Why, you ask?

10. 60% of your body is made of water.

9. You can survive 21 days without food.  But, you can only survive 3 or 4 days without water.

8. Water helps rid your body of toxins.

7. Water protects your joints.

6. You need to replace the water you lose daily.

5. You should drink at least 64 oz. of water every day.

4. Water can get rid of headaches.

3. Water helps reduce your calorie intake by reducing hunger signals.

2. Water gives you energy.

1. WATER PROMOTES WEIGHT LOSS! 

Get to drinking, friends!